So, we continue the story of Richard J Loveday and meet his second wife, Susannah……..
1853 was also the year that Susannah Sarah Sadgrove, at 20 years of age, married Richard John Loveday, 35, surveyor, and widower with four children, at the Turf Hotel which was situated in Franklin Street, Adelaide on 5th May 1853.
Susannah’s life was a difficult one for a girl so young. Taking on the responsibility of 4 step children and the problems entailed in that and a husband, aged 35 and 15 years older than herself.
Added to this she established a new home in Army Barracks and coped with the repeated absences of her husband on his Surveying work for the army on behalf of the State Government. In total she reared 14 children and performed 69 years of pioneering service and dedication.
This is a copy of a letter from Susannah to her friend Caroline in Hobart. It is uncertain how the copy came to be in existence. Nothing else is known of the facts surrounding the letter.
Rose & Crown Hotel
To Dearest Caroline,
I must tell you how much I depend on your enduring friendship and to be able to tell you of my life here in Adelaide and you must tell me about the happenings in Hobart, although I fancy I will not be familiar with the names and places that you mentioned in your last letter. What goings on with your neighbours!!
Life here is still a dreary drudge and I spend all of my waking day in the kitchen and scullery, preparing meals and cleaning up. This is such terrible work and I do miss my drawing and painting. Mother says I should forget about those idle pleasures as we are now struggling to stay alive in very difficult times.
Mother is coping with the running of the hotel and in fact seems to thrive on it. I hate it and cannot tolerate the offensive comments from the men who frequent the hotel. Mother says I should ignore them and stay away from the tavern area, but it is difficult when I have to pass by on my way to and from the kitchen. The loss of my Father is still very painful for me and I do miss him so. I dare not tell Mother or she would take on a rage and tell me how much better off we are without him, but that only makes me feel worse.
Two days later.
Oh, Caroline. I have something very distressing to tell you. Mother and my sister Amelia were arrested and charged with stealing neighbours clothes. It is so terrible and I cannot stop crying at the shame this has bought upon us. Father caused us enough problems and shame in his time with the Law and this is just as difficult to endure.
Relief and joy! Mother was discharged by the Court and Amelia was very fortunate that the Crown did not press charges. It was a terrible prank that Amelia played and it all went horribly wrong. It has all finished in the best possible way, although Amelia was given a very stern reprimand by the Magistrate and she is very contrite now. I sometimes wish that I could just leave this family with all its problems and worries! Mother is constantly lecturing me that it is time I found a young man and at 21, I will not find any man to marry me. I truly do not get time to meet nice young men having to spend all of my time in this dreadful hotel. When I see the type of young men that pass through here I despair that I shall meet my young man.
One week later.
Caroline, my heart is broken! Mother has met a man that she wishes me to marry and I was introduced to him for the first time today. He is quite handsome, of sober habits, but is much older than I and is a widower with four young children! He told me that he is 35 years old! He is very pleasant, but reserved and I suspect a serious man. He is a Lance Corporal, Surveyor with the Royal Sapper & Miners and Mother says that he is a very highly thought of man by the Governor. This is my worst fears come true and I don’t love him, but Mother says that I must marry him to help our family, and that he is a good catch for me. How am I going to be a step-mother to four children, the eldest who is only 9 years younger than me! And the youngest is only 4!
The wedding has been set for the 5th May and Richard & I, along with the four children will move into the married men’s quarters of the Reedbeds Army Barracks that he occupied with his late deceased wife.
Please say a prayer for me, Caroline, as my life is about to change and I will be a slave in another house like I have been here in this awful hotel. My heart is truly breaking and I do not know what to think or do.
I will not miss the terrible scenes’ that Mother and I have about the men that visit her. Amelia is not much better and behaves in a very loose fashion. She is being courted by no less than three men and none of them are of a gentlemanly nature, but I do worry about William being bought up in this atmosphere. A hotel is no place for a 15 year old boy. He does work for a local farmer and I hope that he can make a life for himself by farming.
How I do miss you and wish that you could be here to help me in this difficult time,
Your loving friend,
The following is an authentic statement by Emily Agnes Stanton (nee Loveday), daughter of Susannah Sarah Sadgrove and Richard John Loveday as dictated to her son Victor Edward Stanton.
“My Grandfather Henry Sadgrove came out from England and first settled with his wife in Tasmania. He had a brother there, Charles, a Church of England Clergyman. My Grandmother, Susannah Sadgrove had two sisters there also, one married to a Naval Lieutenant called Douglas and the other married to a Lane. Her brother also lived in Tasmania. Her brother also lived in Tasmania, Jolly.
When South Australia was founded later, Grandfather Sadgrove came over to the new Colony in 1839. Grandmother Sadgrove and 3 year old Susannah Sarah came a little later in a ship named “Fanny”. After living awhile in the newly formed settlement, after adding Amelia and William to their family and also attending the funeral of Colonel Light, Grandfather, Henry, was drowned going back to England on a business trip, leaving Grandmother a widow with three young children. The Sadgrove’s came from London, England.
Grandmother’s maiden name was Warren and they were on the land, but I don’t know what part of England. Grandmother earned her living by keeping a shop in one of the earliest suburbs of Adelaide to be settled, called Bowden.” (End of Statement)
It is reported that the Sadgrove’s came from London and Mr Henry Sadgrove’s mother was a titled lady, a Miss Warren who married Mr Sadgrove.
Susannah and Richard Loveday had a long and fruitful marriage and Susannah gave birth to 10 children of which 6 survived. She also reared the 4 children of Richard’s first marriage; Ann aged 11, Richard 9, Thomas 7 and Mary 3 years of age at the time of their father’s marriage.
Alice was the first baby, born in 1855, Henry William was born in 1856 but died in 1859, George only survived for 3 days in 1858, Henry George was born in 1860, Alexander William * was born in 1862, Emily Agnes arrived in 1864, then came Richard John in 1864 but only survived for 2 days, Frances Jane was born in 1866, Ernest Alfred in 1868 and in 1870 Edith Marion Blanch was born but only survived for 1 year.
Susannah was now 37 and Richard 52. Richard had been discharged from the Army and was now a senior Surveyor with the South Australian Government.
They were living at Findon and Richard had bought a large land holding at Windsor which he farmed with a son-in-law, William Baker.
Susannah lived with her daughter Emily, at Salisbury, until her death in 1905.
Susannah is buried in the Church of England cemetery, Salisbury. South Australia.
Next post we look at the Career of Richard and the many discoveries he made as a Surveyor.